Are your kids on track?
We spend a lot of time and energy on whether or not our kids are on track physically and intellectually, but what about whether or not they’re where they need to be emotionally, socially, and spiritually?
* When will they be able to self-regulate and control their emotions?
* When will they internalize the faith your family has tried to instill in them…make it their own?
* When will they stop being so self-focused and have the capacity to empathize with others?
Check out the replay and show notes from our MOB Live with Erin from Home with the Boys and Brooke McGlothlin interviewing Sissy Goff, author of Are My Kids on Track: The 12 Emotional, Social and Spiritual Milestones Your Child Needs to Reach and licensed counselor at Daystar Counseling Ministries about how to know if your kids are on track!
Biggest Takeaways:
I’m expecting things from my children that they cannot perform because they aren’t at that level of development yet.
We can teach our kids how to name their emotions and then regulate their emotions.
In the tween years, boys become super self-aware and aware of everything around them—what people think about them, what they look like, how they perform, how they carry their arms when they walk—it takes up so much space, it’s no wonder they can’t remember to put their shoes away.
It’s never too late! God is at this great work of redeeming us!
Kids today don’t use the word stressed. They don’t say they are worried. They say, “I had a panic attack.”
As a parent, it’s always ok to ask for help.
There is no blueprint to get it all right. Your kids aren’t going to follow a blueprint. Don’t miss the kids you have because you’re focused on who they should be.
Don’t Miss This:
Sissy Goff joins Brooke and Erin with 33:21 left. She is here to talk to us about the emotional, social, and spiritual milestones our kids should be hitting.
With 31 minutes left, Erin asks Sissy why writing a book on these types of milestones is important. She talks about being preventative to protect our kids from all the issues that are so prevalent now.
With 26:45 left, Brooke asks Sissy for practical examples of how this book has changed families.
With 23:40 left, Erin brings up what she read in Sissy’s book, that boys don’t gain perspective from us talking to them, but they need to experience it.
With 22 minutes left, they talk about how parents set the tone and have to look at themselves first. Sissy shares ways parents can become more developed in these emotional areas.
With 16 minutes left, Sissy talks about the stop light system and how it helps kids regulate their emotions by coming up with a yellow light list.
With 11 minutes left, Sissy addresses what to do if your kids aren’t on track.
With 7:50 left, Sissy gives advice to parents who wonder if they have reached the point of needing help.
With 4 minutes left, Sissy has a final word of encouragement for moms and dads.
Links Mentioned:
- Daystar Counseling Ministries
- Sissy’s book, Are My Kids on Track? (affiliate link)
- Raising Girls by Melissa Trevathan and Sissy Goff
- Wild Things by Stephen James and David Thomas
- Freeing Your Child from Anxiety, Revised and Updated Edition: Practical Strategies to Overcome Fears, Worries, and Phobias and Be Prepared for Life—from Toddlers to Teens by by Tamar Chansky Ph.D.
- Sissy’s site, Raising Boys and Girls