Her email resonated with my past pain. The ultrasound revealed a fourth boy. Hadn’t she prayed for a girl? Doesn’t God know her heart’s desire? Could I provide her comfort from my struggle?
Knowing my pain should not go wasted, I responded immediately, asking for her phone number. Amazingly her number began with (214)…the same as mine. I dialed, she answered.
The Phone Call
My lead-off question, knowing she was also from Dallas and we have a billion churches, was “Where do you go to church?” Her response was longer than anticipated. Differing religious background from her husband. Weekends spent at the lake. Past experiences with the church. She still expressed a desire to know Him more, especially in a time of desperate dependence.
After our hour-long conversation about boys, desires for girls, and comfort in knowing God has a plan bigger than ours, we scheduled to have coffee. It couldn’t be a “coincidence” we lived just minutes from one another.
I arrived and she ordered me an iced caramel soy latte. Already she ministered to me, a weary mom, when I thought I came to minister. For three hours we sat face-to-face in metal chairs, outside Starbucks, sharing her past career, Bible study experiences, boy joys and challenges.
My plan was to invite her to a Momheart group I have attended for the last two years. It was led by a mom of four older boys, my mentor. However, that morning our leader sent out an email explaining her mentor (yes, mentors can have mentors) had challenged her to “do something different” this summer. Since her four boys would be home for the summer she decided to take the summer off from leading our group.
Removing the Monday night commitment from my schedule, freed me up to suggest a wild idea. Why not start our own “MOB Society” group? Beginning with just four Mondays this summer and then seeing where it leads. She loved the idea. Her offer to host and organize the group sealed the deal for me.
After sending emails to everyone she knew with boys, the response was awe-inspiring. Eight moms gathered the first night. Eight moms responsible for raising up 25 men. Amazing! Like knights at the round table planning battle strategies and past defeats, we exchanged ideas from familiar territory.
Our 4-week curriculum was simple:
- Introduce ourselves and our boys, begin the discussion of “Good & Angry” (Turansky & Miller) Homework: What are the patterns/times when you get most angry?
- Report back on anger trends, discuss ideas for managing anger in those areas Homework: Apply strategies to help in those frustrating areas.
- How did your anger management strategies work? Give specifics on training obedience. Homework: Think of questions for mentor mom
- Visit from my mentor (mom of 4 boys) Homework: Defeating lies about son’s future with God’s truth
Our common bond is our duty to mother boys to become strong men. In exchanging stories of poop-smeared walls at naptime, brother’s battles, husbands who join in and stir up the ‘crazy’, and loneliness of being the sole girl, we don’t feel so alone. Hearing truth and success stories we leave reinvigorated.
I’m not alone. I have a sisterhood of MOBsters. Given the enormous responsibility to raise men who will lead their familiies, I need support from fellow boy moms. One mom described our MOB Society group as “boy mom therapy”. Come weary, leave fortified.
Do you know other moms of boys in your community? Have you ever considered meeting every other week?
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