I cried as I relived the day. As we lay in bed whispering, I gave my husband a play-by-play of my failures for the day. One by one I gave voice to the good-intentions-gone-terribly-wrong and sank lower and lower in despair. It had become a habit for me, pointing out all of the things that I had wanted to do with my day, but couldn’t because of various reasons. My to-do list had been taunting me for months and I just couldn’t (and still can’t) figure out my new normal after a fussy, sleep-fighting baby entered the picture.
And then he said it.
“I dare you to name one thing you did right today.”
Boom. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I wasn’t a complete failure.
The boys had gotten dressed in clean clothes that I had washed, dried, and folded.
They had eaten until they were full–meals I had planned, cut coupons, shopped for, and prepared.
They had laughed deep, belly laughs at fun I had orchestrated.
They had been read to.
Most importantly, they had seen their momma kneel at the foot of the Throne in desperate need of help from the Savior.
While it wasn’t too hard to come up with an answer, it did require me to get up out of my pit and step into the light. I know I’m not alone in this. I hear it in conversations all the time. Often as moms, we replay our shortcomings over and over like a broken record. We measure ourselves against each other or someone else’s opinion of what makes a good mom, and when we don’t measure up to those expectations, we condemn ourselves. And then, the guilt starts. Most of the time, we are our own worst enemy.
Often, we forget that there are a few things we’re doing right. I think it’s high time we stop playing the broken record and toot our horn.
Your turn: Tell me one thing you’ve gotten “right” today as a mom. I dare you…
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