Those silent diagnoses that rip the innocence from your boy….
Recently I encountered one of the most frightening moments in a mother’s life, as we sat in a psychiatric emergency trying to wrap our minds around why our 12 year old baby boy would ever try to take his own life. How did we not see this coming? What had we done wrong as parents?
It was the longest week of inpatient care ever. And I thank God (even to the doctors) that He gave me the diagnosis before they did. (Oppositional Defiant disorder, with a side of ADHD, topped with a nice serving of depression.) A long week that led us to information overload, a cry for help….
Why Lord? Why can’t you heal him? He is your child, why do you let this silent disabilities take over him? I know now….for His glory!
And on a good day, my sweet boy knows that too…
After much reluctance and even more prayer we approved of one medication (they were pushing for 2-3)….one to treat the ADHD, hoping that would help him function better and he would become less depressed. Mostly, that has helped. The biggest issue of all though, is the one that has no treatment, very little insight, and very little answers.
ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder)
There is often the question in the back of our minds: “How much of this defiance is of his will, and how much is totally out of his control…and…how much of it is truly a spiritual battle?” You see, He gets set on something, digs his heels in, and that is all. She. Wrote…..Unless you can be creative. Finding ways to work around him and make a way for him to feel like he is in control, but really you are.
It isn’t easy.
We have sat in the floor in the corner of the foyer at church huddled for an entire service.
We have cried.
We have spent countless hours under his bed (that seems to be his place of retreat)
We have prayed relentlessly.
We have even paid our son to participate in required school activities that he despises.
Do you have a son with one of those “silent” diagnoses? One that doesn’t seem like they really affect your child? But really it does!
Do you ever feel you are to blame? Where you went wrong? Why God allows this in your baby?
Rest assured weary mom, He has great plans. For you. For your son.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”~Jeremiah 29:11
Know that He has great plans for our sons. We just have to pray and love them through it.
Even in the days we fail.
Stacey is a: Saved by Grace, God fearing, Bible believing, Child of the King! She and her husband of 14 years are raising their 5 sons in a small town in Southeast Michigan. In her chaotic world of full time employment, being a wife, raising 5 boys, pursuing Jesus, laundry, dishes, carpool, and so on: She is STILL trying to fulfill God’s call in her life…..to share her story, her battles, her triumphs, and testimonies from being a teen mom from a drug addicted home, to being the not so perfect wife and mother she is today! Her prayer is to lift up and encourage others through the words that God lays before her! You can find her at Multipurpose Mom. You can also “like” her on Facebook and follow her on Twitter. She can’t wait to meet you!