Has anyone else noticed that there is nothing in the Bible about teaching our boys to remain boys?
As I read my Bible and think about parenting, I am immediately struck with how wrongly most of our culture is approaching raising boys.
Cultures in the past often put 13 year old boys in charge of ships and farms, yet we cottle them as though they are toddlers. I long for my boys to leave my home at the end of high school as men, not as boys. I want to see integrity and maturity in their lives that surpasses what I see in most adult men, let alone teenage boys. It IS possible, they CAN be men at that age, but we have to expect that out of them and give them the confidence and tools that they need while praying hard that God changes their hearts.
I am not proposing that we put our boys to hard labor at the age of 8, but what I am saying is that we focus too much on making our children happy, and not enough on teaching them how to be Godly. We spend too much time teaching them to dribble a basketball, and too little time helping them learn the scriptures which are the key to life and Godliness. We as parents (myself included) need to steep ourselves in God’s Word so that we can speak it into their lives and prepare them to be the men that God intends them to be.
I am woefully unprepared for this task. I have failed in so many ways as a Christian, husband, and daddy. But we serve a merciful, powerful King who is able to overcome my own faults and failures to accomplish these goals. I have faith in Him to accomplish more than we ask or imagine, He is the only one who can truly change my boys sinful hearts. I will teach my boys to dribble a basketball, but am committed to not allowing the things of this world to crowd out by boys search for their King.
Brad the Quad Dad